Anyway, we were standing in line to look at tables at a craft fair/flea market type place. At one point, I overheard someone say “That’s his mother! She looks so young!” See, even in my dreams my vanity knows no bounds.

We were looking at items at a cool new age table and I was picking out jewelry and pouches and perfumes and oils, etc. Sullivan was also picking up things and then he paid and I paid for our stuff and we convened on a bench nearby.

Well friends, this is where the dream gets crazy. He was showing me this tarot deck he picked up — and it was a Hello Tarot! See, I’m mildly obsessed with Hello Kitty, and some of you may know that there was an underground, unauthorized tarot deck published featuring Hello Kitty. These decks sell now for hundreds of dollars though, and the most I’ve ever paid for a deck is $55 (that Touchstone Tarot — and man, was it a splurge!). So basically there’s no way I’ll ever get my hands on one of those Hello Tarots. But the deck that Sullivan had in my dreams was full color and boxed with a companion book. It was beautiful! Hello Kitty in all her glory! Even better was the price sticker on the imaginary deck in my dream — $18! Score! See, even in my dreams I am very thrifty!

So I ran back to the booth to try and obtain a copy for myself — and that’s when I woke up. Drat.

I honestly can’t figure out, with all the other kind of weird stuff that Sanrio licenses, why they won’t put out an actual tarot deck. Argh. Just to vex  me every time I see one of those damn unauthorized decks on eBay. I want one so bad, alas, alas… only in my dreams.

The Golden Tarot by Kat Black is another collage deck — this one published by US Games. The deck is RWS-style, suitable for beginning and advanced readers alike. I love this deck because it’s so lush. The colors are rich and warm — like the Touchstone Tarot I blogged about earlier. This deck also features full-gilt edges. The box and book that the set comes with are very sturdy and lovely, though I store my deck in a bag.

I’ve found the cardstock on this one to be a bit thicker than most of my other decks and it did require a “breaking in” period where I would shuffle them nonstop for a few minutes to get them warmed up. Now that they’re nice and broken in, I don’t find I have a problem with the cards sticking together. This deck is also slightly bigger than RWS cards — and longer than the Touchstone Tarot (which is my ideal size for my small hands). Overall though, this is a deck that I could pretty much recommend to anyone. It’s so beautiful and readable.

This deck is available through Amazon or Tarotgarden.com — or you could probably find it at any of the big bookstores (Borders or B&N).

Earlier today someone posted in a forum a reading they conducted. The title of the post was “Am I pregnant?” and the person listed the cards she threw. My response to this was that there is a test available at the drugstore that can settle that question once and for all in under five minutes.

Another poster gently chastised me for my comment. However, I was not being snarky! If someone came to me asking for advice on some cards they threw when their question was “Is the lump in my breast cancerous?” I would suggest that they see a doctor ASAP to allay their fears. This is the same sort of question in my mind.

It says in my code of ethics that I do not give medical or legal advice and I stand by that firmly. I think that not only is it unethical to attempt to dispense advice via tarot (or any other divinatory means) on these matters, but it’s ultimately a waste of everyone’s time. Tarot is a very useful tool for gaining insight on situational matters, but all the insight in the world won’t compare to the peace of mind a positive (or negative) pregnancy test can provide. I can understand that people may be hesitant to take the steps required to actually know — especially in these kinds of life-changing circumstances, however this is a situation that falls 100% outside of my scope of practice.

A more helpful question to ask the tarot would be “Why am I afraid of being pregnant?” or “What would I gain if I were to become pregnant?” or “How would my life change if I got pregnant?” Do you see the difference?

I’m curious as to what others think about this? If a friend or stranger wanted you to read for her because she thought she was pregnant, what would you say? What if it was some other medical condition? What if it was a legal problem? Where do you draw the line and say to a person — go get the help you really need.

Awhile back I bought The Oracle of the Radiant Sun on eBay for a dollar. To be honest, it never occurred to me that I could buy tarot decks from eBay before — though it never occurred to me to try and sell readings on eBay either. Anyway, this oracle deck and book set caught my eye somewhere at sometime and it had been in the back of my mind until I saw it up for auction.

My first thought upon opening the package was that it was really poorly packaged. One of the covers of the book folded to make part of the box meant to hold the cards. So if I were to just read the book, all the cards would fall out of the box anyway and the box would still be attached to the book! And by cutting the box from the book (which I did do), I no longer had a box to keep the cards in. Needless to say I’m putting them in a little drawstring bag that I purchased from this seller on etsy. (I haven’t gotten the bag yet, but the picture of the fabric just matches the cards perfectly!)

Anyway, I just finished my first professional reading with these cards yesterday and I really, really enjoyed it! The spreads offered in the back of the book are so flexible that questions are answered in a snap (if you know something about astrology). Now, I admit that astrology isn’t my strongest suit, but it doesn’t take a lot of knowledge to understand the basics behind these cards. I was really impressed by how a romance reading flowed using the horary reading method outlined in the text. I’ve done several “yearly” readings for friends with these cards, but I really enjoyed this horary reading and think that this will become a staple of my card reading offerings.

Of course the cards are really beautiful as well.

Ninety-nine percent of my clients want to know about love/romance/partnership. They frequently word this as “soul mate”. Everyone wants a soul mate. Everyone wants to be a little less alone in the world. I’m fine with this (though the frequency of this type of reading is something of chagrin to professionals at the psychic water-cooler). What I’m less fine with is when someone asks for a “general” reading from me and I throw cards, interpret, intuit, etc., and then after the reading they say, “Well, um, is there anything in there about a romance (or a relationship/possible relationship/soul mate/boyfriend/wife/etc.)?”

This bothers me because it breaks some very simple rules for getting a great reading. The first rule is Be upfront about your expectations of the reading. If you’re going to a psychic for advice about love, say so! If you were going to a lawyer for advice on a traffic violation, you wouldn’t ask for some “general legal advice”, would you? No, why is a psychic any different?

Lots of people expect a psychic to know exactly what it is they want, and part of the test is to see if the psychic will figure it out. Unfortunately, the universe doesn’t work that way. I don’t work that way. I can’t read your mind (thank GODS), so if your burning desire is find out whether your partner is in it for the long haul, ask me! Don’t sit there purse-lipped and expect that the cosmos is just as emotionally invested in your love-life as you are! I’ve got a little tip for you, it isn’t. What is most frustrating and most fruitful about the tarot is that it is a tool that tells you what you need to hear, not what you want to hear.

That said, careful wording of your question and expectations of a reading can help focus your reader so that you can get the kind of counsel you want. Here are some tips to get you started:

1. Let your reader know first thing what area of your life you’re interested in exploring.
2. If you want to know about a specific situation, let your reader in on the specifics of the situation. The more information your reader has to work with, the better they will be able to synthesize the reading to answer your questions. He or she should be able to adjust the spread used to maximize your reading potential.
3. Engage your reader with questions during and after the reading. It’s been my experience that my clients get more out of their readings if they are active participants in them. Some psychics hate this. I love it. If you are looking at the cards and have a sudden insight to offer to your reader do so! It’s your reading, after all!
4. Don’t try to “trick” or “test” your reader. I’m always very confused when someone pays for a reading from me and then proceeds to try and test my psychic-ness. I dislike the word “psychic” anyway, since I’m of the opinion that we’re all psychic to some degree. My role is to interpret the cards, that’s it. In my mind it’s akin to going to a doctor but making the doctor guess what’s ailing you. I often want to ask these people what is motivating them to throw away their money if they don’t believe there is any intrinsic value in a card-reading? Alas, I bite my tongue since I’m the one the money’s being thrown at.
5. If you’re on the fence about whether you believe in the value of a tarot consultation, share those feelings with the reader. He or she should be able to explain to you their exact process. Some people are uncomfortable with the method used (by channeling, for example. I’m personally uncomfortable with angel readings and readings involving dead relatives). In that case, you should seek out a reader with whom you share similar philosophies.

Buying a tarot reading (or any other kind of psychic reading) is a luxury for many people. Don’t waste your money on a reading you’re going to walk away from feeling empty. By following the simple tips outlined above you’re assured to receive at least some of the guidance that you seek.

Of course keep in mind that the tarot, as will all tools of self-discovery, does not always tell you what you want to hear. In that case, be open to the message offered in the cards. Give the reading some time to germinate and give yourself the quiet reflection time needed to fully digest what the cards have enlightened.

My first impression is that this is a very positive deck. I love the colors and the simple primitive art. I love that the nudity includes both men and women (a qualm I have with The World Spirit Tarot). I’m not entirely sure how I feel about the round cards as they were somewhat cumbersome in my hands on my first few shuffles.

Often a good indicator of how well a deck will behave for me is I ask my husband to trade readings with me. Now, he knows absolutely nothing of tarot except for the few readings I’ve done for him (and seriously, we’re talking a few. The man does not want to know his future!). He recognizes certain cards that have come up for him repetitively and he knows some of the majors because we have collaborated on some tarot artwork together. So when he does a reading, it’s entirely based on what he sees in the pictures.

He liked the round cards and the art as well and was able to offer some insightful observations on the three cards he pulled for me. I did notice that the imagery strays somewhat from traditional Rider-Waite so I will have to consult the book if I want to know author’s intentions on some of these cards. Not having a Little White Book or companion text to work from has proven more frustrating for me than I thought it would, honestly. I suppose I’d not realized how deeply ingrained the Rider system is in my tarot readings.

At first I appreciated the novelty of the deck, but after spending some time just looking deeply into the cards, I can tell that it’s not a novelty at all. Looking at this deck makes me feel connected and calm and I look forward to having a free moment to pick up the literature it came with and diving in wholly.

While I’m not ready to offer readings with this powerful deck quite yet, I’m excited about it’s potential for the future benefit of myself and my clients!

Of course that was nearly twenty years ago and I’ve since learned that when I approach my parents cool-headed and express my ideas rationally, they’re much more receptive than when I say, hide my satanic influences between the mattresses. I don’t remember what happened to those cards, actually. Maybe I did get a good beating, who can say anymore? I probably just gave them away, which is my habit for things that are precious to me that I’ve kept too long.

The Karma Cards spurred on the playing cards, which are still a favorite of mine. I must have seen them in a movie and using numerology books from the library, I made up my own system of divining with them. Playing cards were easy because I could read in public and everyone just figured I was playing solitaire. There weren’t taboos on playing cards either (though one of my  high school teachers felt that all cards mocked God — please, like her skin is that thin!).

I guess there was always this nagging “Go get a tarot deck!” voice in my head, but I pushed it aside because I foolishly believed that there was something inherently evil about the tarot. Having the capability to search the Internet, I researched and finally decided to pick up a deck of my own. The Connolly Tarot. I laugh now that this particular deck was the one I chose. In my search to find the most “positive” tarot I could (equating in my mind at the time to “less demonic”), I totally took for granted that life in of itself has a dark and unavoidable side. This deck did not speak to me at all and the more I tried to learn, the more I became frustrated. It wasn’t until a copy of The Morgan-Greer Tarot fell into my lap that I could connect properly with the tarot.

I’m amused by now naive I was to think that prettily decorated cardboard cards could be evil. Of course my worldview was shaped by that of my parents. As conservative agnostics in the Midwest, they really did try to raise me right.

While my devotion to cartomancy has varied over the years, my love for it has not. At one time I owned many dozens of tarot decks, but before moving to Indiana I either sold or gave away most of them. I only have three now — a Rider-Waite deck that was a gift from a friend, my beautiful Victoria Regina Tarot, and The Tarot of Prague. Though I’m currently lusting over several right now — The World Spirit, The Golden Tarot (both of which I did own at some point) and The Fantastic Menagerie.

My son is awake now, so blogging must cease, but I wonder, how did your tarot journey begin?